with teenage daughters about radio stations and TV shows. When is it reasonable to pick out the good stuff and just turn off the bad, as opposed to chucking the whole thing and leaving the TV off completely?
I think this ties in with the book of Judges. If you will forgive an illustrative short story....
Three Israelite brothers, Moesh, Tulax, and Jesh moved to a small
valley to farm. They worshipped God, held the feasts, and gave tithes to
the Levites, and tried to do what God wanted. In this valley lived a few
pagan families who worshipped several different gods: one of fire, one of
harvests, another of rain, and so on.
Moesh thought that some of the pagan women were very pretty, but he
remembered that he was not supposed to marry a pagan woman, so he married
another Israelite from several valleys away, and they started a family.
Sometimes he traded food with some of the pagan families, and sometimes they
got together for dinner. He noticed that his neighbor Sulla would always
splash a little of his drink out onto the floor before he drank any. Moesh
asked Sulla why, and Sulla said that this was what they always did--it was
one of the customs of the country. When Moesh ate at Sulla's home, everybody
splashed a little out of their drink, from the grandfather to the baby (who
splashed a lot!). The only one who didn't was Moesh, and he felt a little
uncomfortable.
One evening he sloshed a little bit himself when everyone else did,
though he tried to make it look like an accident. The next week he did it
again, and pretty soon he was splashing a little out just like everyone else.
When their families ate together, Moesh's son BarMoesh noticed that
his daddy was splashed a bit of milk out on the floor with the Sulla family,
and asked why. Moesh told his son "That's nothing, its just the way they do
things here." So, BarMoesh cheerfully splashed his milk too, and not just
with the Sulla family, but sometimes when he was alone as well. He asked
his friend BenSulla one day why: he'd never thought to ask before. BenSulla
said "Oh, that's just so it will rain."
When BarMoesh grew up he married and had children of his own, and at
every meal and every time they drank water outside they splashed a little on
the ground first--just to make sure the rain would come. One day his son
Mobat asked his friend Sulbat about splashing, since Sulbat seemed to know
more than he did. Sulbat told him that the splashing was an offering to
Ba-el, the rain god; and that every year you were supposed to sacrifice a
sheep on an altar in the hills as well. Since Mobat knew the splashing was
all right, and helped the rain come, because his daddy said so, he supposed
that the sacrifice in the hills was OK too. And so, when Mobat grew up, he
took a sacrifice to God at the tabernacle and another one to Bael in the
hills. But the altar to Bael was closer, and it even had a statue of Bael
he could look at, so he liked it better.
Tulax (remember, Moesh's brother), when he moved to the valley, also
saw the pretty women, and decided that one of them was too pretty, and too
good a cook to pass up, so he married Murpa. Murpa was a very nice woman,
and she loved their children, but she insisted on keeping some of her family's
customs, such as going up in the hills once a year to an altar that Tulax
needn't bother going to and always putting the chicken head in the fire.
Tulax wanted peace and quiet in the house, so he let Murpa do what she wanted.
Murpa told their children BarTulax and Melpa stories about people,
and about the land, and about the spirits in the stream, and about the gods.
Tulax told them about God and how Moses had led the Israelites out of Egypt,
which always impressed the children, but Murpa told them most of what they
heard, so when they grew up they thought there were many gods. So they went
to the tabernacle with their father, but they more often went to the altar
in the hills with their mother, or offered a chicken to the fire god
themselves.
When BarTulax and Melpa grew up and had children of their own,
they told their children about all the gods and spirits they knew, but the
real God was only one, and He seemed a bit far away, so their children
didn't pay much attention to Him.
Jesh saw the pagan women, but he knew he wasn't supposed to marry
one, so he eventually found a wife several valleys away. He made friends
with his neighbors, and traded food with them, and sometimes ate with Sulla.
Sulla would splash a little out of his cup before drinking, and Jesh asked
him why. Sulla said it was just the custom of the country. Jesh asked, "Why
is it a custom?" Sulla said, "Well, it is to make sure it rains."
Jesh asked "Why does that help make it rain?" Sulla said, "It is a
little offering to Ba-el to remind him that we need rain."
Jesh said, "I can't do that; I can only worship God." Sulla didn't
say anything.
But after that, Jesh felt more and more uncomfortable eating with
Sulla and his family, and so he tried to only meet with them at times when
they wouldn't be eating. Sulla thought Jesh was being standoffish and
unfriendly, but Jesh wouldn't eat with the Sullas, nor would he let his
family eat with them anymore.
When Jesh's children asked Jesh why the Sulla family splashed milk
before drinking it, Jesh explained that the Sulla family was worshiping an
idol, and that he wanted his family only to worship God. When Jesh's
children grew up and had children of their own, they told them the same
thing, and told them the stories of Moses bringing the Israelites out of
Egypt.
So, three Israelites came to the valley. One was a compromiser,
one was disobedient, and one was faithful. The grandchildren of the
compromiser became idolaters. The children of the disobedient man became
idolaters, and their children as well. Only the grandchildren of the
faithful man were still faithful. It was so easy for the compromising man
to compromise, and so easy for the disobedient man to give in to his pagan
wife, and so easy for the children to worship nearby idols; that it is no
wonder that so many of them became idol worshippers.